Messages of Hope Stories

Becky Stead's  story

I was diagnosed with Metastatic Breast Cancer via a skin lesion biopsy 5 years ago last month.  After extensive testing and a lumpectomy it was determined that I had Stage IV breast cancer to the skin and bones.  Like everyone faced with an incurable cancer diagnosis I spent a lot of time mourning the loss of my potential future and being just plain scared senseless.  It took a long time to adjust to my new reality.  First I cried almost every day.  After a few months it was less often but I was still in shock.  My future did not look bright.  I have been on anti-hormonal treatment for the last five years and except for a mild progression in my lower spine and pelvis last November I have been stable.  I have very slow growing disease.  I am still on anti-hormonal treatment and it seems to be working.  I have never had chemotherapy as I was not diagnosed at an earlier stage.

I never really forget that I have incurable cancer but it no longer diminishes my days.  I know that I feel well today and will probably feel well tomorrow.  I have lived long enough to see my son graduate from college, fall in love and become engaged.  I have no doubts about being well in November when he will be married.

I have learned that everyday is special.  The weather doesn't matter, if it is sunny out that is great.  The rain is nice and snow is wonderful if one doesn't have to get out and drive in it.  My husband and I still make plans and look forward to the time when he will be able to retire but we don't forget to enjoy today in the meantime.

Becky Stead